Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept
Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept is a beautifully illustrated children's picture book that sensitively broaches the subject of keeping children safe from inappropriate touch.
We teach water and road safety, but how do we teach Body Safety to young children in a way that is neither frightening nor confronting?
This book is an invaluable tool for parents, caregivers, teachers and healthcare professionals to broach the subject of safe and unsafe touch in a non-threatening and age-appropriate way. The comprehensive notes to the reader and discussion questions at the back of the book support both the reader and the child when discussing the story.
Suitable for children aged 3 to 12 years.
Story is a powerful medium to discuss difficult topics with children in an appropriate way.
Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept was written as a a fable with an important message, i.e. if a child is ever touched inappropriately they need to tell a trusted adult and keep on telling until they are believed.
Body Safety Education (also known as protective behaviours or child sexual abuse prevention education) involves so much more than focusing on stranger danger. In fact, 95% of sexually abused children will know their abuser and only 5% will be strangers. It is also crucial for children to learn that they must never keep secrets that make them feel bad or uncomfortable (in fact, we teach it's best not to have secrets in families, only happy surprises). The trouble with secrets is that they are the main tool used by child molesters to ensure children remain silent about the abuse. Ensuring the secret is kept is of utmost importance to the perpetrator. Therefore, threats and insisting no-one will believe the child is used as a way of controlling the child to be silent. Through Body Safety Education parents and children will learn the importance of there being no secrets between us.
Recognition for Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept:
BRONZE AWARD in the 2012 Moonbeam Children's Book Awards in Pre-teen Fiction - Mature Issues category.
FINALIST in the 2012 Eric Hoffer - First Horizon Award for Excellence in Independent Publishing.
"I felt so incredibly grateful to Jayneen for being brave enough to broach such a difficult subject and for going to such lengths to have her book published. I felt like shouting about it from the rooftops (I had to settle for Facebook) and I hope that people, not just parents but ALL people, will join me in arming our children with the best weapons available to them – self confidence, open communication, body awareness, a safety network and the ability to say 'NO!'"
– Rebecka Shelberg: Kids' Book Review: www.kids-bookreview.com
"I want to personally thank Jay on behalf of my family, and so many other families around the world, to dedicating her time, talent, and energy to create Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept and its accompanying resources which are empowering children to protect their bodies and know what to do if someone abuses them."
– Chelsea Lee Smith from 'Moments A Day: Personal Growth for Families' www.momentsaday.com
"This book is amazing in the way of empowering our youth! I wish books like this had been written years ago, as I endured such abuse myself & it could've made all the difference in the world, but am very thankful that they're here to do so today in order to give our children a much need voice! GREAT job! ♥ ♥ ♥ May everyone with a child or grandchild take the time to read it to them!"
"A great tool to help keep our kids safe. Well written and the intro and discussion at the end are fantastic. I plan to buy more for family members."
– Kristy, Amazon purchaser, Jan 22 2018
"I work at a child abuse and incest clinic and this has been a very helpful resource. I recently received it and already used it several times. The children have really responded to the story and it has started some helpful conversations. Highly recommend."
– Cassie, Amazon purchaser, Jan 2014
"I was concerned about how to bring up the tough issue of childhood sexual abuse with my 3 year old son because I never want him to become a victim. This book makes introducing the topic easy and my son really enjoys the story. As he gets older I can see how it would be easy to have more discussion based on what happens in the book so that my son can know what is appropriate vs. not and how to handle it if someone ever did this to him. Some parents may be taken off guard by how honest this book is, but it is certainly appropriate for young to middle childhood (age 3-10) and is a great first step to protecting our children from a traumatic experience."
"This book is so well written that it helps deliver a very serious message without scaring the child. The discussion topics at the end are helpful to begin a dialogue with your kids about the topic."
– Cassandra, Amazon purchaser, April 9 2015
"This is an excellent book to be read to young children. The illustrations are gorgeous and the story is told in a really sensitive way. It is so important to talk to your kids about safe and unsafe touch just in case... Hopefully they will never be touched inappropriately but just in case they are, they will know it is wrong and to tell someone straight away. This book also taught me to listen to my child. So often we dismiss what our kids say to us but it made me really think about my parenting, and how I should always listen to my children and take note of their worries. Even if I am too busy! I would highly recommend this book to both parents and teachers."